Fiona* & Michelle* felt stuck.
They’d been a couple for nearly a decade and had built a life together. But lately, things were becoming strained. Arguments were constant, and it felt as though they were trapped in a cycle of criticism, blame, clinging, and judgment. There was never any resolution, and they’d begun avoiding each other just to prevent the next fight. They still loved one another and weren’t ready to give up on the life they’d created, but something had to change.
Mariah* was sexually unsatisfied.
She yearned for good, real, erotic, sensual intimacy, but it seemed forever out of reach, and beyond that, she was struggling to understand and accept her identity as a queer person. For some reason, she simply couldn’t get rid of her preconceived notions of what it “should” be like, or scripts that dictated who she could be intimate with. She was convinced that she didn’t look right, or feel right, or experience pleasure the way that she was “supposed” to. She wanted to communicate this better with her partners, but felt shame and didn’t know how.
The Patel* Family was going through a change.
Their oldest daughter, Mia, was getting married, and her partner was of a different ethnicity. The family had always placed a strong emphasis on preserving their culture in their children. With this impending marriage, they worried that the values they worked so hard to instill in their daughter would soon be rendered obsolete, and further, that the couple would face discrimination and disadvantages in society. Every time the topic was brought up, it caused conflict, but they couldn’t ignore it any longer.
Layla* was struggling.
She had a successful career and a wide circle of friends, but for some reason, satisfying romantic relationships seemed to elude her. They all followed the same pattern – starting happy and hopeful, and ending with her feeling unlovable, confused, and ashamed. She wants so badly to find a lasting partnership, but she doesn’t know how to break free from the unhealthy cycles she’s stuck in. She’s tired of being alone, but doesn’t know how to move forward.
*The above names and stories are fictionalized composites of real clients I’ve supported.
Hi, I’m Tara.
I see couples and families, as well as individuals, in Boulder and online throughout Colorado who are stuck in patterns that no longer serve them, and that strain their closest relationships.
My style is grounded and genuine, and I balance a collaborative and directive approach.
Together we build the safety that creates clearer connection. We tune into your vision and purpose, while cultivating an understanding of yourself in cultural contexts, family and ancestral patterns, and relational styles. You’ll learn to create greater compassion for all aspects of your experience, feel more settled in your body and life, learn to hold that compassion for others, and feel more honesty and connection in your relationships.
My approach
I practice contemplative, trauma‑informed psychotherapy that blends mindfulness, somatic work, and relational therapy. I rely on my intuitive application of evidence‑based techniques. For those who seek it, I also weave in Buddhist‑informed and mystical practices to deepen healing and cultivate presence. I welcome all identities, family and relationship formations.
“Whatever arises in one’s own mind can be experienced for what it is. We do not have to push our experience away…we can accommodate anger, sadness, joy, boredom, agitation, calm, and so on.” – Karen Wegela, Contemplative Psychotherapist
Book a free consult to see if working together feels like a good fit
Fiona & Michelle came to therapy to work through their relationship fears and the patterns that kept reappearing. Together, we looked at their respective attachment styles and ways to reflect, repair, and reconnect. Now, they feel safer with one another and feel trust and intimacy blooming.
Mariah came to therapy wanting to explore the scripts that had been running her sexual shame, and learn to not only accept her expansive sexuality, but to celebrate and make space for its nuance and complexity. She feels safer communicating her needs and boundaries with her partners in the moment and taking risks in exploring.
The Patel Family learned to foster open communication by practicing active listening, understanding intergenerational differences and immigration trauma, and learning to respect and tolerate one another’s differing value systems while letting go of the need to change them. With time and patience, they learned to lean on their shared cultural value of supporting one another through cultural and identity struggles. They now have more respect and empathy for one another’s lives.
Layla reached out, and we explored how unresolved complex relational trauma – the kind that builds over time – was shaping how she saw herself. Through trauma therapy with somatic processing, she was able to integrate the fear and pain of her past. Now she’s moving forward with purpose and confidence.
This is your step toward clarity, healing, and real connection.
